This Is Possibly Unreasonable...

...and possibly I am being unfair, but when somebody (i.e. MJ) lends a person he knows (i.e. me) 3 DVDs with the words "I got these second hand from CEX* and now I've watched them I thought you might like to", I don't believe it's very nice to moan to the borrower's (and his) mother two and a half days later because the borrower hasn't watched them yet and now he can't get any money back returning the DVD's to the store, so he is annoyed and out of pocket.
     In fact, more than not being very nice, I think it's downright mean.

I do; I think it's mean. He knows that I spend my free time pottering, getting little bits and pieces done, and often am not even in, rather out and about. He also knows that because of this, it takes time for me to settle down and watch films and things, especially as I like to watch them all the way through in one go, rather than on and off in bits. Setting aside 30 minutes to an hour for some TV is one thing: two and a half to three hours in a solid block? More tricky.

I'm not mad because he is upset with how long it's taken/taking me. They're his films, and if he wants them back, more power to him. What's upsetting is the back-handedness of it. At no time did he say: "I need these back A.S.A.P because after two or more days the store won't buy them back from me": if he had have done, I would have been able to thank him for the offer, but tell him that he best take them back immediately, because I didn't think I was going to have time to watch them before then. That way, neither of us would have lost out on anything. But no. He handed them over with a smile and then moaned about it, three days later. And not to me, I might add, but to our mother! As if she has any control over it!

I just... =angry face= ...am I being unreasonable here? I am in the wrong? It's probably true that most people would have watched the DVDs and given them back within that time frame, but I am not most people. I simply don't function that way; something that he knows as well as I do.
   
=sighs=

My bottom line is clear. My feelings are that when offering the use of things - unasked for, no less - if the lending comes with a time limit of less than a week, then damnit; you should say so!
     And his is that he feels differently.

So, Blog: Am I in the wrong here? Or is he?
     Or possibly, both of us?

Alice (miffed) x

* A store that you can buy things from and sell things to, both new and second hand. Sort of a modern day pawn shop; they've been popping up all over ever since the recession hit.